Self Talk 101

July 11th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

Hello from Shelley!

The theme of this newsletter is becoming more aware of your Self Talk and how to deal with your inner critic.

I hope you had a great July 4th weekend–however you spent it.  I was with my family at my Dad and Step-Mom’s cottage about an hour and a half north of Green Bay. 

The weather was beautiful and we had a lot of fun.  We talked, swam, floated on rafts on the water, watched movies, sat by the fire, played ladder ball and made tie dyed t-shirts!  Here is a photo of some of my family with our “Camp Riutta” t-shirts on.  For more photos

Wishing you a summer filled with fun times with people you love.

Warmly,

Shelley

 

Self Talk 101

“Every waking moment we talk to ourselves about the things we experience.  Our self-talk, the thoughts we communicate to ourselves, in turn control the way we feel and act.”      John Lembo                                 How have you been talking to yourself today?  Has it been loving and kind or critical and harsh.  We all have an inner dialogue that is going on throughout the day.  The tone and content of this dialogue will determine how you feel.  If it is loving and supportive, you will feel peaceful and happy; if it is judging and unkind, you will feel anxious and down.  When I begin working with clients oftentimes they are very unaware of how they are talking to themselves.  There are certain exercises we do to begin to bring this inner dialogue to the surface so they can begin to work with it more consciously.   Once we make this dialogue “visible,” they so often will say “No wonder I feel so anxious” or “No wonder I feel so depressed”.  This is the first step to making profound changes that will tremendously impact their life.  Sometimes people are walking around with an inner part of them being incredibly critical and hard on themselves — picking at themselves for every little thing.  This criticalness and pressure is very draining and will put a lid on their joy and freedom of expressing who they truly are.  Sometimes this is modeled after a parent that was very critical with them and sometimes it is something that they developed on their own.  Either way, the good news is that they can transform this inner dialogue to one that is more loving and supportive. One of the methods of shifting this dynamic is to understand the function of the criticalness.  If you can, think of the part of you that is critical and understand that it has some good reasons for being critical–it actually is trying to help you.  The logic it has for “helping” you is somewhat distorted, but it makes sense to this part of you.  The more you understand the “why” than you can work with it more consciously.  If you know you have a critical part of you, dialogue with it in writing.  Ask it, “Why are you being so critical?  How are you trying to help me?”  Once you get the answer you can respond to this part of you and find a way to address the things it is trying to help you with in a way other than the criticalness.  Here is an example: Audre was so excited that she was making so much progress in developing her business.  She had a big vision for what she wanted to do in the world and she was actively manifesting her vision.  The more progress she made, the stronger and more vicious her critical voice began to get, saying things like, “You don’t know what you are doing; you don’t have the talent to do this!”  “Who do you think you are?  Do you think you are better than everyone else?”  and “You are going to fall flat on your face.  You may as well give up right now”.  This voice surprised her because she had moved forward so much because she had worked hard to develop a supportive inner voice and now her critic was bigger than it had ever been.  This was confusing to her and when she listened to her critic, she became very disheartened and depressed.  She knew that there must be a good reason this part of her was so strong now–and she felt it may be connected to how much progress she had made.  She dialogued with this part of her, asking why it was so critical of her and how it was trying to help her.  This critical part of her said back, “I’m afraid that you will be hurt as you have more success,”  ”I’m afraid others will judge you,”  “I’m afraid you will fail and this will disappoint you,” “I’m trying to hold you back and keep you safe from all of these things; I don’t want you to get hurt”.  As Audre heard the concerns of her critic she felt compassion for this voice inside of her that was trying to protect her.  She realized it was just a part of her that was very afraid.  She was able to talk back to the inner critic and say this, “Thank you for your concern and care for me.  I need to let you know that I can take care of myself as I succeed.  If others judge me, I will not take it personally and understand it is their own hurt parts doing that, and has nothing to do with us.  Also there is no way that we can fail.  The success is that we are following our dreams.  We have the courage to do this.  We may have obstacles and setbacks at times, but we will keep going and that in of itself is a success.” By saying these words to her critic, her whole body relaxed and she was able to move forward without that critical voice floating around in her head.  Every now and then she would hear it again, but she would do the same process and listen to and reassure this part of herself.  By doing this she was able to continue to move forward in leaps and bounds without her inner critic–out of fear–trying to put the brakes on her. Open up to learning from your inner critic:  how is it trying to ”help” you?   What are the ways that your inner critic manifests for you?  How do you deal with it now?  I would love to hear your comments–please comment below.

Niyo’s Tip of the Week Niyo is my four year old Golden Retriever!  Here is his message for this issue of the newsletter!   “Here I am snoozin after an extra long day at doggie day care.  It’s a rough life!  Make sure to play hard and sleep hard like me.” Love- Your Friend Niyo  To learn more about Niyo, go here:  Niyo’s Notes

Free Tele-Class “The Power of Your Own Pleasure”

Mark your calendar!   I will be doing a fr*ee teleclass on Tuesday, July 22nd 2008 from 7-8 p.m. Central Time zone.The topic will be “The Power of Your Own Pleasure.”  Are you having enough Pleasure in your life?  When you focus on bringing more Pleasure into your life, you support and energize every area of it.  In this tele-class, you will learn specific things you can do to bring more Pleasure into your life and release any blocks to living a Pleasure-filled life. This tele-class is based on my article “The Power of Your Own Pleasure.“  The number for the call is 712-432-3900  the access code to get on the call is 5594042#  For more details If you missed last month’s call, “Soulmate Manifestation Tips,” don’t worry–I have a recording of the presentation available.  My recording equipment did not record the actual call so I recorded the presentation and added some additional information.  This audio is a must if you have a deep intention to meet your Soulmate or you are wanting to uplevel your current relationship to a Soulmate Relationship.    For more details.

July 4th Vacation

July 11th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

Here are some pictures from the 4th of July.  I was with my family up in Northern WI at my Dad and Step-Mom’s cottage.

Here we are after eating on the deck.  It was so nice to eat all of our meals outside!

Here is my brother-in-law, sister and my niece.

We spent one afternoon tie dying t-shirts.  Here is my niece doing hers.

Here is my sister and her friend Rob.

While we tie dyed t-shirts my Dad and Brother worked on projects around the house.  My brother is like the energizer bunny–jumping in and getting all of these projects done–on top of it he ran 25 miles during the week!  I joined him on my bike one day while he was running and I got tired just watching him.

Here are our shirts–mine is the first one on the right–it kind of has a 101 dalmations theme going:)

The excitement of this day was playing ladder ball and my sister–who has inherited the “can’t throw a frisbee” gene kept throwing her ladder ball into the nearby trees–instead of on the ladder target (see to the right of the big ladder).  Here is my brother-in-law getting the ball down.  We had quite a laugh.

The 4th of July wouldn’t be complete without the Crivitz 4th of July parade.  Crivitz is a very small town about 15 miles from the cottage.  The kids are gearing up to get candy that the people in the parade are throw out.  Apparently a minor brawl broke out over the candy near where my sister-in-law and niece were(they are the the two on the far left).

Here is my brother and sister-in-law at the parade.  Of course my sister and I are under a tree in the shade:)

What did you do for the 4th?  I would love to hear!

 

 

 

 

The Importance of Doing Nothing

June 26th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

Hello from Shelley

Wishing you lots of full moments of doing “nothing”!

Warmly,

Shelley

 

 

 

The Importance of Doing Nothing

“There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace.  You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.”                 Elisabeth Kubler-Ross Chances are you are very busy, maybe even too busy.  If that is the case taking time to “do nothing” is even more important for you.  We are meant to have a balance of active, doing time–and then a balance of time for relaxation.  So often we keep going and going without a break–this generally  leads to a decrease in our productivity, irritability and feeling drained.  How Doing Nothing Helps You: 1.Taking time to relax and do nothing helps you physically.  During relaxation our body is able to devote more energy to healing and repairing itself.   It also helps you to de-stress and reduce the negative impact of stress on your body. 2. Letting go of the mental chatter that accompanies being busy allows you to ”hear” the more subtle messages of your Spirit.  Your intuition is like a soft voice which you need to be quiet to be able to hear its messages.  These intuitive messages can give you guidance on how to handle the situations in your life.  The more you worry and get stressed–the more you block the subtle answers that are trying to come through from your intuition.  So give yourself permission to relax and let go—trusting that the answers you are chasing will be able to come to you–and you will be able to hear them in the quiet. 3. Doing nothing with others helps you to connect more deeply with them.  A story that I read years ago that really stuck with me was about a family in New York City that regularly had “do nothing” weekends.  They all would stay in their pajamas for the weekend and just hang out together.  They would talk a lot, do skits for one another and make up games.  They limited the outside activities that their kids were involved in to protect the time that they had to be together.  So often we are so busy with outside activities that we become strangers to the people we are closest to. Having big chunks of time together can create safety for more vulnerable information to be shared.  This is what happened this past weekend with my sisters. What we shared on day 3 of being together was deeper, more vulnerable information then the first initial sharing during day 1.   4. Doing nothing can help you get more done!  The analogy I use is that it is like we have a kid inside of us that needs rest and play.  If we just are busy and don’t stop to rest and play this little kid gets very cranky and starts to cause some problems.  These problems look like procrastination, forgetfullness, working slower etc.  If we do take the time to rest and play the kid inside of us is happy.  Then when we start to work again it will be very cooperative with what we want to get done and things will go smoother. Ideas to add doing Nothing to Your Schedule 1. Have “do nothing” breaks during the day.  Go outside and lay on the grass for 10 minutes and look at the sky.  If you are in your office shut off your computer, take off your shoes and close your eyes for 10 minutes and do nothing. 2. Take a nap.  If you have never taken a nap–give it a try. It’s OK if you don’t sleep, just resting with your eyes closed can be very relaxing.  Try taking a nap in a hammock.  There is something about being outside and gently swinging that is very soothing and peaceful. 3. Go to a coffee shop where you don’t know anybody and hang out.  I am writing this article at a coffee shop and there is a woman sitting alone reading a book and another woman alone working on the computer.  Go somewhere where there are no distractions, so you can focus on whatever you would like to –reading a good book, journaling or just relaxing and being.  Check out all of the coffee shops in your area and find a special place that feels relaxing to you. 4. Go on a Retreat.  A wonderful way to do nothing and connect more deeply with yourself is to go on a retreat.  You can find a place that is a short drive away from you that you can go to for the day or for the weekend.  A place locally that some of my friends have gone to is “The Bridge Between” which is just outside of Green Bay.  You can plan a retreat in your own home too.  Plan a time when no one will be there and eliminate distractions–turn off the phone, the computer etc.  Block out a designated time as your “retreat” time–you could do a half of a day or a whole day. 5. Find a place in your house that you designate as your “do nothing” place.  This is a place that you can go for peace and quiet when you need it.  Eliminate distractions and also let the people in your home know that when you are in this place that you are to not be interrupted. 6. If things are really busy for you and you feel like you don’t have any time—take a 5 minute break to do nothing.  You would be surprised at how even a small amount of time like 5 minutes can make a big difference in helping you relax.  You can focus on your breath and make sure you are breathing deeply.  When we are busy we often  hold our breath–so taking this break and breathing fully can relax you and help your body release tension. 7. Designate one day a week to take off.  Have one day a week where you aren’t doing any work–no errands, no work around the house etc.  Just a day to be and do as you please.  When you have a full day off you can really get into a relaxed state and enjoy the full benefit of this.   Then when you go back to work you will feel energized, more focused and you will be more productive. Give yourself the gift of putting more time in your schedule just to “do nothing” and watch your life become more peaceful, productive and rich with a deeper connection with yourself and others! What are your favorite things to do–to do nothing? Please share these below.

Niyo’s Tip of the Week Tip from Niyo my four year old Golden Retriever!  Here is his message for this issue of the newsletter!   “Wishing you a wonderful 4th of July with lots of fun for you and all of your friends” Love- Your Friend Niyo

Free Tele-Class “The Power of Your Own Pleasure”

Mark your calendar!   I will be doing a fr*ee teleclass on Tuesday, July 22nd 2008 from 7-8 p.m. Central Time zone.The topic will be “The Power of Your Own Pleasure.”  Are you having enough Pleasure in your life?  When you focus on bringing more Pleasure into your life you support and energize every area of your life.  In this tele-class you will learn specific things you can do to bring more Pleasure into your life and release any blocks to living a Pleasure filled life. This tele-class is based on my article “The Power of Your Own Pleasure.“  The number for the call is 712-432-3900  the access code to get on the call is 5594042#  For more detailsIf you missed last months call “Soulmate Manifestation Tips”–don’t worry–I have a recording of the presentation available.  My recording equipment did not record the actual call so I recorded the presentation and added some additional information.  This audio is a must if you have a deep intention to meet your Soulmate or you are wanting to uplevel your current relationship to a Soulmate Relationship.    For more details.       Reminder: I will be doing a monthly posting in my blog with follow up material to the “What Do You Really Want” Workbook, so be sure to check to blog regularly to get that material.  My Blog.   Please feel free to pass this newsletter along to others.

The Power of Inspiration

June 13th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

The Power of Inspiration

“I love to laugh, it keeps my soul alive.” Mark, River Falls, WI “An Inspired Life Can’t be Planned” We are Spirits housed in human bodies.  There are things that fuel our bodies and things that fuel our Spirit.  If you neglect feeding your Spirit –you will feel drained and like you are a robot going through life.  Being inspired is a powerful way of nourishing and uplifting your Spirit.  What inspires you?  How often are you around the things and people that inspire you?  Just reflecting on what inspires you and making sure you are surrounding yourself with these things will lift your Spirit and energize you. Tips To Get Yourself Inspired 1. Who are the people in your life that inspire you.  What about them inspires you?  This is a quality that you value and more than likely possess yourself but maybe you aren’t expressing in your life. Use this to open up more to this quality in your own life.  Make sure the people you have in your life inspire you. 2. What music inspires you?  What about the music uplifts you—is it the voice of the singer—the words–the rhythm?  Do you like music that you can dance to or music that is calm and soothing. 3. What things visually inspire you?  Is it certain things in nature—the ocean, mountains, trees?  Is it certain colors?  Is is certain architeture of builidngs? 4. Which restaurants inspire you?  What food do you love?  What decor do you find appealing?  Do you make sure to go to restaurants that inspire you.  I love going to Cafe’ Mario’s because I love how they have decorated it, the music they play (Andrea Bocelli–my favorite:), the smells of the food, the laughter and connection that happens there. 5. What books do you find inspirational?  What words uplift you?  What authors inspire you? 6. What creative activity inspires you?  Dancing, painting, playing music, singing, making jewlery. 7. Do you inspire yourself?  Are you daring to live your dreams, express your creativity–living with passion?  Are you committed to a vibrant, inspired life?  Like the quote above–an inspired life can’t be planned.  Are you willing to let go and allow yourself to be inspired—and more importantly to act on these inspirational impulses? 8. What geographic areas inspire you?  Does your Spirit lift just thinking about Italy, Hawaii, Alaska or the California coast?  Make a plan to travel to the areas that inspire you.  There is a reason you are drawn to that area—it is a place that will feed your soul.  If you can’t travel there just yet, put up pictures of that area that you can see every day. 9. What movies inspire you?  Look for movies that inspire you—don’t settle for anything less than that . For those of you who have read the “What Do You Really Want Workbook”, I mentioned one of my favorite inspirational movies, “Miss Potter”, about the amazing life of Beatrice Potter (the artist who created Peter Rabbit).   10. Talk to your friends and family about what inspires them—you will deepen your connection with them from having this discussion.  Ask them “What inspires you?” 11. Surround yourself with things that inspire you.  When you look around your home—are you inspired?  Put up pictures that uplift you–buy art work that inspires you.  Buy flowers that you love. Open up to feeding your Spirit with all the the things that inspire you—and watch your energy level soar and your life expand into grand new possiblities! I would love to hear what Inspires YOU.  Please share this below (in the comments section).

Niyo’s Tip of the Week Tip from Niyo my four year old Golden Retriever!  Here is his message for this issue of the newsletter!    ”This is me and my best friend Breezy–and her Mom, Ines.  I love Breezy and Ines SO much.  Breezy has been staying with us for the past week and a half because Ines is traveling.  We have been having so much fun–we went to doggy day care yesterday.  My Mom was late coming to pick us up because the power was out and she couldn’t open the gargage door to get the car out. Our neighbor, Paul, gave her a ride to come pick us up.  Paul is one of my favorite friends in the neighborhood because when he is out sitting in his backyard he lets me out of his bowl of Cheetos–I LOVE Cheetos.  I told Breezy about this and she wants to come with me next time to see Paul and his Cheetos. Thanks Paul for the ride home AND the Cheetos!”   To learn more about Niyo, the stinky dog who LOVES summer,  go here:  Niyo’s Notes

Free Tele-Class “Soulmate Manifestation Tips”

Mark your calendar!   I will be doing a fr*ee teleclass on Wednesday June 18th  2008 from 7-8 p.m. Central Time zone.  The topic will be “Soulmate Manifestation Tips”.   Are you ready to manifest your Soulmate?  Clear the blocks you have towards meeting your Soulmate and learn ways to prepare for meeting “The One.” Also email me a question you have about this topic.   The number for the call is 712-432-3900  the access code to get on the call is 5594042#  For more detailsIf you missed last months call “Boost Your Confidence: 5 Simple Ways to Shine”–don’t worry–it was recorded and is available for you.  It includes a powerful process to help eliminate self-doubt and self-sabotage. For more details.   Reminder: I will be doing a monthly posting in my blog with follow up material to the “What Do You Really Want” Workbook, so be sure to check to blog regularly to get that material.  My Blog.   Please feel free to pass this newsletter along to others. Wishing you Joy and Peace on your path to creating your own Radiant Life! Shelley www.RadiantLifeCounseling.com 920-265-2627

Hanging out in the Garden

June 13th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

Last weekend I took a trip to the Green Bay Botanical Gardens with my friend Michael.  Here are some pictures from our trip.

 

Here is Michael taking a rest on the shoulder of this very kind woman:)

 

 

 

 

Do you Rise Up or Go Down in Relationships?

May 29th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

What I have noticed in working with clients over the years is that many people have difficulty holding their own in a relationship.  What I mean by this is taking 100 % responsibility for their happiness and holding true to the highest vision for their life and relationships.  People can have sense when their partner is on a different path and maybe doesn’t have the same type of dedication to growth that they have.  In response to this–they may do a variety of things to deal with this.  The most common thing can be to start holding themselves back from their own growth.  They sense that if they keep growing that they will “grow” out of the relationship.  So they make a decision that they are willing to hold themselves back, rather than lose the relationship.  They ended up bringing themselves down.

When I work with a client who is doing this–I have them look at the consequence of doing this.  Typically they start to struggle with depression and or anxiety.  It takes a lot to hold their own energy back–and typically they will start to feel very drained from this.  The origin of doing this can come from their childhood.  In order to get their parents’ approval they had to be more of who their parents wanted them to be–rather than who they truly are.  They actually are used to holding themselves back in a relationship because they started doing this at a young age.  The belief underlying this pattern is “I can’t be all that I came here to be and be loved too–I have to hold myself back to keep my relationships.”

I encourage them to love themselves for who they truly are—and commit to allowing themselves to be all that they came here to be.  They will not really know the truth of their relationship until they do this.  I have seen the other partner in this kind of relationship “rise up” and start to grow as well when their partner holds their ground in their own growth.  They will never know if this is a possibility until they do this.  If they do embrace themselves fully and not hold themselves back—move forward in their lives—and their partner continues to stay stuck for a period of time–they will know that they did everything they could to give the relationship a chance.  They can walk away with peace—opening up to a healthier connection with someone with a similar commitment to growth.

Boost Your Confidence: 5 Simple Ways to Shine

May 23rd, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

We had a great call Tuesday night–”Boost Your Confidence: 5 Simple Ways to Shine.”  I gave a tele-class presentation on the inner dynamics of self-confidence and shared powerful processes to boost confidence.  These are processes that I have used with clients for years to help them successfully be more confident.  I also reviewed the dynamics of self-doubt and self-sabotage and gave tools to release these blocks.  Don’t worry if you missed the call—I recorded it and you can order it here—I have included an article and a Self-Care Checklist with the recording as well.

Enjoy your upcoming Holiday weekend!

Time to Take a Road Trip!

May 20th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

In keeping with my latest article in the newsletter “How To Have Your Best Summer Ever” (see the previous post)–I decided to get a head start on my summer fun and take my first road trip of the Spring/Summer!

This past Saturday my friend Kathleen and I—and the boys (our two dogs Niyo and Cloud:)–took a day trip up to Peninsula State Park–a state park on Lake Michigan (In Door County).  We went to see the forget-me-knots at the park–and to walk in the woods by the water.  The weather was perfect.  Here are some photos of our day.

We stepped off the walking trail to get closer to the water–isn’t it beautiful!

Niyo (my dog)  was scared of the waves–he would lay in the water like above and then when a wave would come he would jump up as if to say “What the heck was that!!”

Look at that sky!

The sky would change so quickly this is just minutes after the previous photo.

I love the clouds in this picture.

Here is Kathleen and Niyo in the car after our hike.

Niyo inside the car saying ”Mom, whatcha doing?”

Kathleen suggested we go to the Chef’s Hat in Ephraim, WI– which is owned by our friend Mary Joyce’s son, Todd.  He is a wonderful chef!

Here is Kathleen with her Salmon Sandwich—it looked great–that is what I am getting next time we go:)

And yes, to top it off we couldn’t miss going to Wilson’s Ice Cream Shop–I had my favorite Mackinaw Island Fudge ice cream cone.

What road trips to you have planned for your summer?  Or what are your favorite road trips you have taken in the past?  I would love to hear from you!

 

 

How to Make This Summer Your Best Ever!

May 16th, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

“Be like the flower, turn your face to the sun.”   Kahil Gibran

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Are you ready for SUMMER?  It is that time of year when I bring up with clients–what can you do to make this the best summer ever for you?  So that is the focus of this issue of the newsletter. 

One of my favorite things to do is get together with my sisters for a weekend in the summer.  Typically we have gone to Noah’s Ark–a big water park here in southern Wisconsin.  Last year we hung out at my sister’s house in Madison. We tend to regress to the state of mind of middle-schoolers—and we have a ton of FUN.  We had a day where we took goofy pictures all day.  Here is our favorite Charlie’s Angels pose. (My little sister Erin, who is kneeling looks like she means business!)
  
 

The next photo is with my brother-in-law Aaron–who is a SAINT for taking all the photos that day.
 

 

 

 

 

How to Make this Summer Your Best Ever!

“Celebrate Summer–Sun drenched days and starlit night…”  Gooseberry Patch”Deep Summer is when laziness finds respectability”  Sam Keen It’s the middle of May—why think about summer now?  What I have noticed over the years in working with clients and in my own life that if we don’t plan our summer ahead of time–it tends to get planned for us by others or lost in the busyness of life.  All of a sudden it gets to the end of the summer and you have run out of time to do the things you really wanted to do.So now is the time to get out your calendar and start planning your best summer yet!Tips to make this your best summer: 1. Get clear about what you want–what are your intentions for the summer.  Do you need a summer with lots of relaxation–lying on a hammock reading a favorite book?  Do you need a summer with adventure–traveling to places you have always wanted to visit? Do you need a summer filled with fun times with the people you love?  Are you drawn to more solitude or connection with others?  You might want a mix of some of the above.  The more you set your intention and then plan right now–the more likely you are to fulfill your deepest dreams for your summer.   2. Take 100% responsibility for your happiness this summer.  It is your job to create the summer you would like–it is in no one else’s hands.  Do not make your good times dependent on someone else.  If you want to travel and your partner does not want to–find someone else to go with–or go on your own. Let go of the false belief that you are selfish if you focus on your own happiness.  You are actually being self-responsible when you do this.  It is our job to create as much happiness for ourselves as possible.  You uplift those around you with your joy and happiness.         I have clients who have transformed their whole family by their own happiness and joy. So let go of the guilt and know that it is your job to create your own fun.                3. Decide who you want to play with this summer.  Who are the people in your life you have the most fun with?  Plan to be with those people this summer.  Don’t do things with others out of a feeling of obligation–follow your heart and be with the people you can really play with.  If you don’t have people you can play with in your life—set an intention to meet people this summer with whom you can have fun.         4. Put in on your schedule NOW- Get your calendar out and plan these fun events now.  Connect with your friends and/or family and make a plan.  Again–if you can’t find someone to join you on your adventure–plan it on your own.   5. Don’t back down- Take a stand for your fun.  Don’t let pressure from others make you back down from what you really want to do.  Stay firm on your intentions for your summer and let go of others’ reactions–their reactions have more to do with them then you.  You will be amazed at how great you will feel when you follow through with your plan.      6. Connect with the little kid inside of you–If you have a hard time thinking of things that you would love to do tune into the little kid inside of you.  This part of you has a ton of ideas for fun things to do. Things like: riding your bike, going out for ice cream, riding on a Ferris Wheel, going water-skiing, sleeping outside on a warm summer night.        7. Stay balanced as you plan- Make sure not to overplan your summer.  Too much of a good thing can make summer activities more stressful than enjoyable.   Other ideas for Fun things to do in the summer: *Take a day trip to a state park and walk/bike in the woods *Attend a summer festival *Go to the beach *Go camping *Take a road trip with no destination *Go to a water park or amusement park (they are for big kids too:) *Make a bonfire in the backyard *Go watch a band playing outdoors   I would love to hear what your favorite things are to do this summer–post your favorite down below at the end of the newsletter.

Niyo’s Tip of the Week Tip from Niyo my four year old Golden Retriever!  Here is his message for this issue of the newsletter!    “I love summer!  My favorite thing to do is SWIM–here is me swimming at my Grandparents cottage with my friend Cloud.  I love when my Mom throws the flying squirrel (it is like a Frisbee) and then I jump in and swim to get it. Other things I love to do in the summer are: *sticking my head out the window of the car and smelling everything! *going on road trips with my Mom *finding big sticks in the woods and running really fast with them. ” To learn more about Niyo, the dog who LOVES summer,  go here:  Niyo’s Notes

  

Free Tele-Class “Boost Your Confidence: 5 Simple Ways to Shine.”

Mark your calendar!   I will be doing a fr*ee teleclass on Tuesday May 20th, 2008 from 7-8 p.m. Central Time zone.  The topic will be “Boost Your Confidence: 5 Simple Ways to Shine”.  Eliminate self-doubt and self-sabotage! Come learn simple tips to help boost your confidence. Also email me a question you have about this topic.   The number for the call is 712-432-3900  the access code to get on the call is 5594042#  For more details

 

Is the dial on your radio set to “Anything is Possible?”

May 1st, 2008, by Shelley Riutta

“Faith is the ability to see the invisible–to believe in the incredible.  That is what enables you to receive what the masses think is impossible.”                                                                   Clarence Smithison

Opening up to the highest possibilities in our life takes courage and commitment.  There can be a lot of negative naysayers in the media—or in your own life that have limited beliefs about what is possible in life.  There are also your own negative conditioning that you have absorbed from your family and the culture.  It can be hard to sort through all of this to find the light of your own dreams. 

Once you find the light of your own dreams it is important to stay focused on this and move forward with faith and trust.   Embracing this big dream opens up the world of ideas and inspiration to the manifestation of the dream.  You will not get these ideas and inspiration until you first embrace and believe yourself that it is possible.   It means setting your internal dial on “Anything is Possible” and keeping it there—no matter what.  As things are re-arranging themselves in support of manifesting your dream it may appear on the surface that something is going “wrong” and that your dream is not possible.  That is the most important time to not waver.  Keep yourself in faith and trust that your dream is in your heart because it IS possible–and you don’t have to know the HOW of how to reach your dream.  Just trust that as you move forward you will get intuitve nudges that guide you to each step.  Your own doubt and fear–will block this information from coming through–so it is important to stay in the lighter state of faith and trust.  Your faith and trust helps you to hear the information that will guide you to your dream.  It helps you tune into the frequency of the radio station “Anything is Possible”.

What can you do today to keep your dial set to “Anything is Possible”?